Own your day. Simplified focus and productivity.
Start your free trial
Minimalist illustration of a woman flexing her arm, symbolizing the strength and challenges of Autistic women who mask, featured in an article discussing the social and mental health impacts of masking in Autistic women.
December 13, 2024

The hidden costs of masking in Autistic women and girls

Autistic women and girls are masking to such a degree that they risk late or missed diagnosis. Masking may help socially and professionally in the short term, but may also harm mental health and a person’s sense of self-worth in the process.

Beaux Miebach

Beaux (they/them) is Tiimo’s Inclusion and Belonging Lead and an AuDHD coach, developing courses and events informed by research and lived experience to support neurodivergent folks across intersections.

No items found.

Autistic women and girls often face immense pressure to mask—to hide or alter their natural traits—in order to navigate a world that wasn’t designed for them. Masking might help them avoid judgment, bullying, or misunderstanding in the short term, but it comes with significant long-term costs to mental health and identity.

Masking doesn’t look the same for everyone. It’s shaped not only by individual traits but also by other layers of identity like race, culture, gender, and class, which influence how masking is experienced and perceived. Recognizing this nuance is crucial as we work to create environments that support all kinds of minds.

What is masking?

Masking, sometimes called camouflaging, involves suppressing Autistic traits or mimicking neurotypical behaviors to conform to societal expectations. Examples include forcing oneself to make eye contact, rehearsing conversations in advance, or holding back stimming behaviors like tapping or rocking.

For many Autistic women and girls, masking isn’t just about fitting in—it’s about survival. It’s a tool for avoiding harm, whether that’s bullying on the playground, microaggressions in the workplace, or misunderstandings in relationships. But masking takes a toll. The constant effort to monitor, suppress, and perform can leave people feeling drained, disconnected from themselves, and, in many cases, unseen by others.

Why do Autistic women and girls mask more often?

For decades, autism research and diagnostic tools have focused on boys and men (you can read more about masking in boys and men here), leading to a narrower understanding of how Autism presents in women and girls. Many Autistic girls are missed because they don’t fit the stereotypical image of Autism—one that often overlooks subtler traits or adaptations.

For instance, an Autistic girl might mimic her peers’ social behaviors to avoid standing out or force a smile to appear approachable even when overwhelmed. These adaptations can help her seem “typical,” but they also make her struggles invisible to teachers, parents, and even healthcare providers.

Cultural expectations further amplify the need to mask. Girls are often expected to be nurturing, socially adept, and polite, leaving little room for behaviors that fall outside these norms. For women of color or those from marginalized communities, these expectations are compounded by additional pressures to counter stereotypes or avoid scrutiny. The result is that masking doesn’t just happen—it’s often demanded.

A person holding a smartphone displaying Tiimo’s Focus Timer, set for a weekly meeting, while carrying two takeaway coffee cups in a tray, illustrating productivity on the go.

Ready to simplify your planning?

Start your 7-day free trial and experience the benefits of simplified time management and focus.

Apple logo
Get started on App Store
Google logo
Get started on Google Play

The toll of masking

Masking can help Autistic women and girls navigate neurotypical spaces, but it comes at a cost. The mental and emotional effort it takes to constantly self-monitor and suppress natural behaviors can lead to:

Burnout

The ongoing energy drain from masking can result in exhaustion that impacts every part of life.

Mental health challenges

Studies show that masking is linked to higher rates of anxiety, depression, and even suicidal ideation.

Loss of identity

Constantly suppressing traits to meet external expectations can make it harder for people to understand or express their true selves.

These impacts aren’t evenly distributed. For example, Autistic women from underrepresented racial or cultural backgrounds may face additional challenges when masking, such as navigating both ableism and racism. Similarly, individuals with fewer resources may not have access to supportive environments or diagnosis, which can make masking feel like the only option for survival.

Moving toward unmasking and authenticity

Masking isn’t a long-term solution, and it shouldn’t be necessary for anyone to feel safe or included. Instead of expecting Autistic women and girls to adapt, the focus needs to shift to creating environments where they can thrive as their authentic selves.

Here’s how we can start making that shift:

Rethink norms

Stop holding neurotypical behaviors as the benchmark for success or acceptance. Instead, celebrate the diverse ways people communicate, connect, and contribute.

Recognize diversity within Autism

Diagnostic tools and educational approaches need to account for how autism shows up differently across genders, races, and cultures.

Build inclusive environments

Whether it’s in classrooms, workplaces, or social spaces, prioritize design that accommodates sensory needs, clear communication, and flexibility.

Listen to lived experiences

Autistic women and girls—especially those from marginalized backgrounds—must be at the center of conversations about solutions.

Research also has a role to play. Most studies on masking have focused on cisgender white women, leaving significant gaps in understanding how other intersecting identities influence the experience. By broadening this lens, we can create tools and strategies that better support everyone.

Final thoughts

Masking often feels like a necessary survival strategy for Autistic women and girls in a world that doesn’t always see or understand them. But it shouldn’t have to be. The cost to mental health, identity, and well-being is far too high.

To build a better, more inclusive world, we need to stop asking Autistic people to change who they are and start challenging the systems that exclude them. The richness of neurodiversity lies in its authenticity—and when we create spaces where people feel safe to unmask, we all benefit.

December 13, 2024

The hidden costs of masking in Autistic women and girls

Autistic women and girls are masking to such a degree that they risk late or missed diagnosis. Masking may help socially and professionally in the short term, but may also harm mental health and a person’s sense of self-worth in the process.

Beaux Miebach

Beaux (they/them) is Tiimo’s Inclusion and Belonging Lead and an AuDHD coach, developing courses and events informed by research and lived experience to support neurodivergent folks across intersections.

No items found.

Autistic women and girls often face immense pressure to mask—to hide or alter their natural traits—in order to navigate a world that wasn’t designed for them. Masking might help them avoid judgment, bullying, or misunderstanding in the short term, but it comes with significant long-term costs to mental health and identity.

Masking doesn’t look the same for everyone. It’s shaped not only by individual traits but also by other layers of identity like race, culture, gender, and class, which influence how masking is experienced and perceived. Recognizing this nuance is crucial as we work to create environments that support all kinds of minds.

What is masking?

Masking, sometimes called camouflaging, involves suppressing Autistic traits or mimicking neurotypical behaviors to conform to societal expectations. Examples include forcing oneself to make eye contact, rehearsing conversations in advance, or holding back stimming behaviors like tapping or rocking.

For many Autistic women and girls, masking isn’t just about fitting in—it’s about survival. It’s a tool for avoiding harm, whether that’s bullying on the playground, microaggressions in the workplace, or misunderstandings in relationships. But masking takes a toll. The constant effort to monitor, suppress, and perform can leave people feeling drained, disconnected from themselves, and, in many cases, unseen by others.

Why do Autistic women and girls mask more often?

For decades, autism research and diagnostic tools have focused on boys and men (you can read more about masking in boys and men here), leading to a narrower understanding of how Autism presents in women and girls. Many Autistic girls are missed because they don’t fit the stereotypical image of Autism—one that often overlooks subtler traits or adaptations.

For instance, an Autistic girl might mimic her peers’ social behaviors to avoid standing out or force a smile to appear approachable even when overwhelmed. These adaptations can help her seem “typical,” but they also make her struggles invisible to teachers, parents, and even healthcare providers.

Cultural expectations further amplify the need to mask. Girls are often expected to be nurturing, socially adept, and polite, leaving little room for behaviors that fall outside these norms. For women of color or those from marginalized communities, these expectations are compounded by additional pressures to counter stereotypes or avoid scrutiny. The result is that masking doesn’t just happen—it’s often demanded.

A person holding a smartphone displaying Tiimo’s Focus Timer, set for a weekly meeting, while carrying two takeaway coffee cups in a tray, illustrating productivity on the go.

Ready to simplify your planning?

Start your 7-day free trial and experience the benefits of simplified time management and focus.

Apple logo
Get started on App Store
Google logo
Get started on Google Play

The toll of masking

Masking can help Autistic women and girls navigate neurotypical spaces, but it comes at a cost. The mental and emotional effort it takes to constantly self-monitor and suppress natural behaviors can lead to:

Burnout

The ongoing energy drain from masking can result in exhaustion that impacts every part of life.

Mental health challenges

Studies show that masking is linked to higher rates of anxiety, depression, and even suicidal ideation.

Loss of identity

Constantly suppressing traits to meet external expectations can make it harder for people to understand or express their true selves.

These impacts aren’t evenly distributed. For example, Autistic women from underrepresented racial or cultural backgrounds may face additional challenges when masking, such as navigating both ableism and racism. Similarly, individuals with fewer resources may not have access to supportive environments or diagnosis, which can make masking feel like the only option for survival.

Moving toward unmasking and authenticity

Masking isn’t a long-term solution, and it shouldn’t be necessary for anyone to feel safe or included. Instead of expecting Autistic women and girls to adapt, the focus needs to shift to creating environments where they can thrive as their authentic selves.

Here’s how we can start making that shift:

Rethink norms

Stop holding neurotypical behaviors as the benchmark for success or acceptance. Instead, celebrate the diverse ways people communicate, connect, and contribute.

Recognize diversity within Autism

Diagnostic tools and educational approaches need to account for how autism shows up differently across genders, races, and cultures.

Build inclusive environments

Whether it’s in classrooms, workplaces, or social spaces, prioritize design that accommodates sensory needs, clear communication, and flexibility.

Listen to lived experiences

Autistic women and girls—especially those from marginalized backgrounds—must be at the center of conversations about solutions.

Research also has a role to play. Most studies on masking have focused on cisgender white women, leaving significant gaps in understanding how other intersecting identities influence the experience. By broadening this lens, we can create tools and strategies that better support everyone.

Final thoughts

Masking often feels like a necessary survival strategy for Autistic women and girls in a world that doesn’t always see or understand them. But it shouldn’t have to be. The cost to mental health, identity, and well-being is far too high.

To build a better, more inclusive world, we need to stop asking Autistic people to change who they are and start challenging the systems that exclude them. The richness of neurodiversity lies in its authenticity—and when we create spaces where people feel safe to unmask, we all benefit.

The hidden costs of masking in Autistic women and girls
December 13, 2024

The hidden costs of masking in Autistic women and girls

Autistic women and girls are masking to such a degree that they risk late or missed diagnosis. Masking may help socially and professionally in the short term, but may also harm mental health and a person’s sense of self-worth in the process.

Georgina Shute

Georgina is an ADHD coach and digital leader. She set up KindTwo to empower as many people as possible to work with Neurodiversity - not against it.

No items found.

Autistic women and girls often face immense pressure to mask—to hide or alter their natural traits—in order to navigate a world that wasn’t designed for them. Masking might help them avoid judgment, bullying, or misunderstanding in the short term, but it comes with significant long-term costs to mental health and identity.

Masking doesn’t look the same for everyone. It’s shaped not only by individual traits but also by other layers of identity like race, culture, gender, and class, which influence how masking is experienced and perceived. Recognizing this nuance is crucial as we work to create environments that support all kinds of minds.

What is masking?

Masking, sometimes called camouflaging, involves suppressing Autistic traits or mimicking neurotypical behaviors to conform to societal expectations. Examples include forcing oneself to make eye contact, rehearsing conversations in advance, or holding back stimming behaviors like tapping or rocking.

For many Autistic women and girls, masking isn’t just about fitting in—it’s about survival. It’s a tool for avoiding harm, whether that’s bullying on the playground, microaggressions in the workplace, or misunderstandings in relationships. But masking takes a toll. The constant effort to monitor, suppress, and perform can leave people feeling drained, disconnected from themselves, and, in many cases, unseen by others.

Why do Autistic women and girls mask more often?

For decades, autism research and diagnostic tools have focused on boys and men (you can read more about masking in boys and men here), leading to a narrower understanding of how Autism presents in women and girls. Many Autistic girls are missed because they don’t fit the stereotypical image of Autism—one that often overlooks subtler traits or adaptations.

For instance, an Autistic girl might mimic her peers’ social behaviors to avoid standing out or force a smile to appear approachable even when overwhelmed. These adaptations can help her seem “typical,” but they also make her struggles invisible to teachers, parents, and even healthcare providers.

Cultural expectations further amplify the need to mask. Girls are often expected to be nurturing, socially adept, and polite, leaving little room for behaviors that fall outside these norms. For women of color or those from marginalized communities, these expectations are compounded by additional pressures to counter stereotypes or avoid scrutiny. The result is that masking doesn’t just happen—it’s often demanded.

The toll of masking

Masking can help Autistic women and girls navigate neurotypical spaces, but it comes at a cost. The mental and emotional effort it takes to constantly self-monitor and suppress natural behaviors can lead to:

Burnout

The ongoing energy drain from masking can result in exhaustion that impacts every part of life.

Mental health challenges

Studies show that masking is linked to higher rates of anxiety, depression, and even suicidal ideation.

Loss of identity

Constantly suppressing traits to meet external expectations can make it harder for people to understand or express their true selves.

These impacts aren’t evenly distributed. For example, Autistic women from underrepresented racial or cultural backgrounds may face additional challenges when masking, such as navigating both ableism and racism. Similarly, individuals with fewer resources may not have access to supportive environments or diagnosis, which can make masking feel like the only option for survival.

Moving toward unmasking and authenticity

Masking isn’t a long-term solution, and it shouldn’t be necessary for anyone to feel safe or included. Instead of expecting Autistic women and girls to adapt, the focus needs to shift to creating environments where they can thrive as their authentic selves.

Here’s how we can start making that shift:

Rethink norms

Stop holding neurotypical behaviors as the benchmark for success or acceptance. Instead, celebrate the diverse ways people communicate, connect, and contribute.

Recognize diversity within Autism

Diagnostic tools and educational approaches need to account for how autism shows up differently across genders, races, and cultures.

Build inclusive environments

Whether it’s in classrooms, workplaces, or social spaces, prioritize design that accommodates sensory needs, clear communication, and flexibility.

Listen to lived experiences

Autistic women and girls—especially those from marginalized backgrounds—must be at the center of conversations about solutions.

Research also has a role to play. Most studies on masking have focused on cisgender white women, leaving significant gaps in understanding how other intersecting identities influence the experience. By broadening this lens, we can create tools and strategies that better support everyone.

Final thoughts

Masking often feels like a necessary survival strategy for Autistic women and girls in a world that doesn’t always see or understand them. But it shouldn’t have to be. The cost to mental health, identity, and well-being is far too high.

To build a better, more inclusive world, we need to stop asking Autistic people to change who they are and start challenging the systems that exclude them. The richness of neurodiversity lies in its authenticity—and when we create spaces where people feel safe to unmask, we all benefit.

Learn more

Colorful, star-shaped figures representing emotions like happy, sad, and calm—Tiimo’s designed take on Apple’s State of Mind feature for reflecting on wellbeing.
December 18, 2024

Tiimo Wellbeing | Align your plans with your body and mind

Tiimo Wellbeing helps you plan with your mood, energy, and wellbeing in mind—building routines that truly support how you thrive.

Read More
Phone screen displaying Tiimo’s focus timer with the task ‘Reply emails’ scheduled from 13:45 to 14:15. The circular timer visualization indicates progress, with a ‘Lo-fi beats’ music label and a listener count of 341 at the top. The background features artistic line drawings in shades of purple.
December 9, 2024

5 simple steps to start planning with Tiimo

Tiimo takes the stress out of planning—this guide breaks down five simple steps to help you get started and take control of your day.

Read More
Tiimo-branded illustration featuring a gradient background, depicting one person standing with Tiimo’s award-winning timer and another sitting below with their knee to their chest, representing focus and accessibility.
January 6, 2023

Why Tiimo went freemium

Discover why Tiimo introduced a freemium version of our award-winning planner. Learn how we’re making planning tools more accessible while staying ad-free and user-driven.

Read More